This is an excellent, fast read; written by a practicing Pagan. She has been teaching for over two decades and with just over 6,000 words she shows you how to celebrate each of the Equinox and Solstices of the year. Encouraging the reader to use what they have, and what is readily available; instead of purchasing everything that is shiny or new.
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One of the problems that comes from that is we tend to have a natural set point, based on where we grew up, or who was around (or who wasn’t) and the money we had or didn’t. Then we keep returning to that set point, instead of moving past it and setting our own. We borrow, what we decided on or were given, as a child and while we age, learn and mature we don’t re-set the “base”.
Take a moment, heck take a few, and look at your own story. Is it filled with the decisions of others; or decisions of your own? Is it filled with history and what happened to you a year ago? five years? decades ago? Or is it filled with building on your success and creating new opportunities and new happiness today and for the future?
When you share a story with someone, is it something from today or the last 72 hours? Or is it a block that you are carrying around with you telling and retelling? It is different when you are catching up with someone at say a funeral or thanksgiving; after all you may have not seen each other for a year or even more. What I am talking about instead are your day to day conversations.
One of the things I do with people that are stuck in their old stories is I interrupt and I ask “WHEN did that happen?” Then I reset the context. So they may say “well I was 11 maybe 12”; in my head I know they are now 49; so I will reset with “oh so over 4 decades ago?” Then I just wait, letting that sink in.
Often people are so stuck in their habits they are sharing their history as their story, instead of as their past; without any conscious thought about what they are re-setting time and time again.
Where are you living, in your past or in your present? Are you defined today because on an embarrassing fart in the 3rd grade and what your classmates said or are you defined by the work you have done this week with professionals your age? Are you defined by the cost of hamburger in 1973 or are you defined by the food choices you make at the grocery store this week? Are you defined by something tragic that has held you in the role of victim, or have you said that was one thing, a horrible thing BUT I refuse to let it be the only thing or the shining light in my life?
When is the last time you re-set your base? Sat down and wrote out a few lines, just 5 - 10 of them and claimed what you are and where you are going, and what you deserve. Don’t just settle for what you have already had and done!