I stopped at the coffee bar, at the grocery store the other day, and interrupted a conversation between the manager and a new worker. The manager and I shared a smile, as she put on her “work smile” and her eye brows went up.
I started to laugh and repeated what I had heard “oh you won’t make me mad”. As I chuckled, because we know each other; thinking ‘oh no, she never gets mad.’ I stood there lips closed, smile on face, trying hard to think what it was I wanted to order (and would say), over what I wanted to say.
She knew exactly what I was thinking and started to laugh, and explained that she was explaining that she would love for someone to do more than they were asked, take some initiative, do something more than just the base, basics.
“Ha! Yes! Make my day, heck my year!” was my reply; and we both burst into laughter as she added “Exactly!!”
I am not sure why so many of the people I know see that same message, flowing through our lives. I am even less sure when exactly the switch happened in how people think; and why some never made the shift (thank the gods!). But there has been a shift to the idea that just doing what is asked, or that just doing the bare minimum is acceptable. The other interesting part of it, is the belief they are doing what is expected of them, they are doing enough, their share; and they deserve ‘more’.
More? Could be more money, more authority - the key words are deserving and more.
But what we all know about the folks that ‘have more’ is they do more. They work harder, longer, do extras and are humble enough to do what ever needs to be done. These folks are willing to grab chairs and set them out, or pick them up. They are willing to say hello, to smile, to ask if there is something they can do - followed with action, actually helping.
These folks move act and choose from a place of gratitude and not from a place of what they deserve. They make eye contact, say please and thank you, they smile and are awake and aware.
Perhaps the most interesting thing, is that anyone can make that shift in their own life. It really is simple to move to a place of rest first, and then work with integrity in the moment; living in the present time; and then rest. Notice there is rest in there, and not a work yourself to the bone or exhaustion, there is a balance. You need that rest point, you deserve that, and will be in gratitude of it. And you will also move into a place, naturally and gracefully of being grateful for the work time, because you will be present and enjoying where you are and what you are doing.
Do all of the problems fall away? nope! Will all days be good days? nope! But you will be moving into a place of flow, and you will find there are people around you that start believing you deserve more.