Family Meal Times

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I will be honest, family meal times were not a regular, positive experience when I was growing up. Holidays yes, but every night, not so much.  And then I didn't do great with my on children. 

I went too unstructured mostly, trying to make sure they didn't have negative meal experiences. But I could have done better for them instead. 

But none of us can go back, just forward and as Maya Angelou said "when you know better, you do better". 

One of the things we know is that our kids (no matter their age) need us, present, our love and our guidance.  And honestly meal times can be a great way to connect.  

It doesn't have to be a fancy meal, or even at a table.  You don't need a planner, or agenda either.  In fact sometimes the more structured you try to go, the less the experience is positive for any of you.  It becomes work and preparation, and less about being present; for you and for them.  

And sometimes it can just be about enjoying each others company, quietly, eating.  

Simple is key.  

• I really like that sweater on you, your beautiful blue eyes really light up. 
• What was the best thing that happened to you today?
• Remember when we (insert some positive fun memory). 

Having olives?  Are they on anyone's fingers?

In my own family it was Grandpa Brydl, my mother's dad, that would teach that trick, and then quietly encourage it behind the backs of grandma and mom.  

Throw a blanket on the floor, have a picnic.  Yes your kids might think you lost your mind, and that's okay.  

I think the secret is that it doesn't have to be always or every, most modern schedules don't allow for that anyway.  But often, frequently good food, with the good people you love, creating a good time and good memories.  

If you have a good conversation starter, share it! 

​We are all in this together.  

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