![]() The world is a lot right now! That means self-care is even more important each day. But what is self-care, and what isn't? A good way to think of it is to remember you are taking care of the whole you, so whatever part you are doing, needs to not become a problem for another part of your body. Maybe a quick nap is needed - great! But a long nap that means you don't sleep tonight is not a good idea. Let's run through several self-care ideas, and all of them are free, except one. First, you need a good night's sleep! A minimum of 7 hours, so that your body can fully relax and heal. It also gives your brain the time it needs to run its "washing machine" function, which is very important for both your short-term wellness and your long-term health, too. Take a shower or a bath, and be present. Feel the water, smell the soap or the shampoo, drop your shoulders, and relax your tension. And drink water to stay hydrated. The headache you have might be because you haven't had enough water to drink, and your body is showing you signs of dehydration. Go outside, even if it's just standing in the doorway, and breathe fresh air. See the sky, even if it's cloudy. Bonus points if you catch the sunrise or sunset, and triple points if you see them both. Move your body. If you can go for a walk, great! If not, do things that naturally move your body. Sweep the patio or the kitchen. Clean out the garage or your closet. Rearrange all of the books on the shelf and dust them. Do something that moves your body. Call a friend and laugh. Watch a funny movie or TV show, and that laughter will break up tension in your body. Hug someone, or wrap your arms around yourself and hug yourself. Hold that hug, and let your body release the feel-good chemicals it needs. And this is the one that costs money. If you can afford it, go get a massage. The human touch and relaxation will do you good. Or get your favorite cream or lotion and rub your feet, taking time to rub each toe and all the sides, top, and bottom of each foot and ankle. Do the same for your hands, fingers, and wrists. Moisturize your entire body if you can. Comfort food, yep, enjoy some. Some is the key word here, moderation. Yes, have the pizza, but not every night. Have a cupcake and not half of a carrot cake, while pretending it's your vegetable of the day. That said, yes, eat your vegetables, eat foods that are healthy and fuel you. Do you take meds? Then make sure you are taking them, and taking them on schedule. Help someone else - who is the one friend or family member that might need a reminder of these things, or a positive message, and I see you. And remember that the national crisis line is 988 - you can call or text for free and confidential, 24/7 in the States.
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What places do you love? Or have you always loved the idea of getting to travel to? What places make you smile and your eyes twinkle? ![]() Terra is another name for the planet Earth, different from the soul or spirit of the planet, Gaia. And a Terran is a person from Terra. It is a more science-based way of looking at the planet and its residents. Think of it the same way you would Venusians being from Venus. And Earthlings is another way you could say it, but it seems that is mostly used in Sci-Fi films. Part of disclosure is knowing some of the common and basic terms you will hear more often, and about, and knowing what they mean. ![]() A lot of folks struggle with forgiveness. Lisa Barnett created this, and it's a great tool to use, and repeat and refer back to. Divine Source, please be my forgiveness
to anyone or anything that has hurt me, from the beginning until the end of time, whether they realize they hurt me or not. I now forgive them and I release them of any obligation they have had with me. Divine Source, please be my forgiveness for myself for any hurt that I have caused others, from the beginning until the end of time, whether I realized I hurt them or not. I now forgive myself and I release myself of any obligation I have had with them. Divine Source, please be my forgiveness for myself for any hurt that I have caused myself, from the beginning until the end of time, whether I realized I hurt myself or not. I now forgive myself and I release myself of any negative obligation I had with myself. Lisa Barnett ![]() Just a quick reminder today about vibrational energy and emotional frequency. Grief comes in at about 75, fear 100, anger 150. Staying neutral brings you up to about 250, and reason to 400. Love bumps you way up to about 500, joy 540, and then to PEACE at 600. When you need to quickly SHIFT UP, start by listing the things you LOVE, love to eat, love to smell, love to feel, love to see (not the emotional baggage love of a person). Once you start listing those things, you will feel the change in your body, and the smile starts to come to you. And just like that, you are the little lightbulb of higher energy during the dark times. Your resonance will be a mirror for others to breathe in, slow down, and align upward. You don't even have to say anything, or lecture them - your presence in resonance is enough. You can learn more about how this process works here (will open in a new window, on a different site).
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![]() Welcome to the first day of July! Reminder: change your calendar over to the new month, and take a look at what your numbers are for the month. You want to look further than just the 4th of July being on a Friday this year. Remember, your year # stays the same, and your month number changes each month. If you don't know how to calculate your personal numbers, head over to the Your Personal Number Vibration Page (link opens in a new window) and calculate your own. Yes, it's math, but it's simple and easy math! What is your vibe going to be this month? For me, I am still in a spiritual year, a 7, and July brings me into a 5-month that will bring a breath of fresh air and some positive changes. When you are looking at an energy shift month, you want to make sure you are being intentional, so you can really maximize the energy for more of what you want to experience. And when we look at the overall year, how that impacts everyone, we have the 9-year, which is a harvest year, about endings, and wrapping things up, for the overall energy (your personal year energy might differ). And we have July as a 7-month, more about that spiritual center of what we know to be true, combined with a waiting energy, a pause. For me, this month is about bringing in a lot of clarity and writing down plans and outlines. With all of the outer planets moving about, and Uranus in Gemini moving into my 7th house, I know things are going to be spinning faster. I want to harness that for positive changes that are lasting and aligned with what I know. Not just knowledge from learned events, but that deep spiritual soul knowing of what is true. How about you? What are you working on in July, and what are your personal numbers telling you? ![]() If you have ever been bowling, you might know about the bumper rails they can put up on your lane. They create a barrier, making sure you will not have any gutter balls. All of the balls will stay on the lane and head towards the pins. Rails are also something we can give people to help them have the time they need to learn, and to continue moving forward. Parents do this when they start giving a child freedom. Here are the choices, here are the boundaries, here is what you need to know. It's not every detail, it's not a guarantee, it's not making all of the choices for them, it's giving them a space to be able to learn without falling off the path completely. We also do this with medical information, if you know the information is going to be a shock and the person is going to need time to adjust and comprehend the information. (And yes, a poor bedside manner is a possibility still in this example, and so is the insurance says you must decide in ten seconds.) But again, let's look at it overall, the bigger picture. Not everyone can process information and see out of the darkness, and into logical next steps. And not everyone has learned how to put their own rails up and move forward with their highest vibration. Let's look at some basic examples of how rails can be your own "security team" for your success. Funerals can be overwhelming emotionally, and they often happen pretty quickly before you even have a chance to process the loss. If you have a family with many of the closest relatives to the deceased who are addicts and alcoholics, in recovery or not, you don't plan a service at the local pub. The rails there are not going to help anyone. Now, say you are an alcoholic, and you are sober, and you are only one of many that would go to the wake, what rails have you put in place for your sobriety? What does your personal security team to stay sober look like? Maybe you are good, bars were never your thing anyway, and you have an actual support person you will attend with who is willing to just be there for you, and you can leave immediately if needed. Maybe they even take you right to a meeting after. Maybe you choose what is best for you is that you don't attend. You find another way to be there for the family, and yourself, and to pay your respects. Maybe you don't have rails, no one trusts your sobriety, no one trusts your behavior, and they lie to you. They don't tell you the correct when and where, or even tell you about the loss till after. Those are all pretty simple examples to understand, but let's be honest, everyday life and rails aren't always that simple to see and to sort. Part of maturing (which is different than just having more birthdays) is doing the work. What makes you tick, what makes you triggered, what makes you heal? And now the same sentences, but substitute who. Do it again with why and then with how. I will share some of my rails as examples. I do not watch blood splatter and gore movies. My brain, soul, and vibration don't need that. I am well aware from living my life that there is enough violence in the world, and to me, that is not entertainment; it is something that needs healing. I am not an alcoholic. But I never drink when I am angry, or sad, or feel like I need a drink. I don't do it, because I know that fuels the wrong way out of raising up from a situation and out of it. For me, I don't drink anymore anyway because of my health journey, and I am also always happy to be the safe person at an event that says Nope, I am good, thanks. Especially for kids to see that no, not all grown-ups need to have grown-up drinks every time they are together. And I never drink at fundraisers, but I always plan drinks when hosting one! Because even one drink loosens up those wallets, and people will spend more than they planned. However, I will on occasion drink a good margarita at a restaurant. What about that family member who is always a victim? My inner security guard that keeps me from enabling, or being drug into yet another endless poor me conversation is I don't answer the phone when they call, and messages get left on read. My rails are I will listen to the message, because there may be a rare reality issue, and I will read the messages, but I never immediately respond. And if I feel triggered by it, especially true for me personally in all issues that involve lies, then I set a timer to make sure I wait for at least a period of time before responding. Or I might say nope, that's a 24-hour calm-down. And a good rail reminder is you can archive a message, and then you don't have to see it, but it's there for later. And here is a rail almost all women need, and some men, and it took me decades to learn. I don't stop my life, my day, my goals, and put them all on hold to help you find all of the answers. Instead, I offer a door for when you are ready. Here is an example: someone you know is in a domestic violence relationship, she is in the car with the kids, she is finally leaving, and she wants to know where the nearest shelter is located. That's a stop, get the directions, the address, and help immediately. Different than, I know she's in a violent relationship, but he's sorry this time, and it will be different. That might look like here is what the cycle of violence is, and you have been here before, and next time he might kill you. A conversation that leaves a door for her to use if and when she is ready. Or she is kinda ready, kinda gonna think about a plan, maybe - here's a good resource, the domestic violence link, and a reminder about how search history can be tracked, and a library has computers you can use, etc. (Here is that link in case you need it, https://www.thehotline.org/ and it will open in a new window.) The Cycle of Violence It doesn't do me any good to call all of the shelters to see how full they are, what legal support they offer today, what outside counseling, or inside counseling, is offered, how they protect kids in school, or with online learning, how their clothing pantry and food pantry work, etc. That's just wasting their time and energy and mine, my rails are, this sucks, here are a couple of doors, including I will help get you to a shelter when you are ready, or change the locks when he is in jail. And it might be a good reminder for me to remember, she may never leave, or never leave alive, and it's not me that kept her there, or abused her.
Where do you already do rails well? When do you need to do a better job with your rails? And are you using your security team, your boundaries, your rails to make sure you are always putting your oxygen mask on first, so that you can best serve yourself and others? It's a free tool you can use anywhere, at anytime, and you already know how to do it!
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