​With the news yesterday of the big earthquake, and then the tsunami waves after it, it's a great reminder to check how prepared you are for an emergency. 

Emergencies are often unexpected and abrupt and don't allow much time in the moment to prepare.  And they can happen to any of us, from fires to floods, hurricanes, earthquakes, snowstorms, and even gas leaks or windstorms that bring down power lines and make an area unsafe for a while.    

Many people learned last night that a tsunami isn't always just a large wall of water.  In fact, most often it's many unpredictable and higher waves that create storm surge flooding.   
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There is also the difference of prepared to shelter in place and being prepared to evacuate.  And if you evacuate, and your family isn't all together, do they all know where to meet up, or head to?  

​In the case of a tsunami, do you know how far inland you need to go? 

​If you had to leave your home, would you have any cash with you? Identification? Your pets? Medication? An extra cellphone charger? 

And did you leave a note on the door that says something like: I evacuated 07/11/25 at 7:45 pm with my dog.  No one is in the home. 

If you have kids or pets, are the basics covered?  And when the pet isn't a dog but instead is a cat, bird, lizard, or a fish tank, are you prepared to make hard choices? 

One of the ladies, in my local neighborhood group last night, said that her best advice, having already lost two homes to disasters, was - take a video of EVERY THING, in each room, because you are going to need that for the insurance mess that comes after.  

​And I added, yes, this is great advice, but it's also something you should do periodically, just like changing the batteries in your smoke detectors.  And definitely after completing any major purchases or changes.  

That is another issue. Do you have insurance, and do you know how to access it if you aren't home?  

One simple thing to do is take pictures of, or scan in, important papers and keep them in your email files.  That way, you don't have to have access to your actual computer.  

This quick post of thoughts doesn't cover everything, but hopefully it gets you thinking.  And more importantly, I hope it gets you taking some action.  

Stay safe out there - the world is a lot these days! 

​If you have ever been bowling, you might know about the bumper rails they can put up on your lane.  They create a barrier, making sure you will not have any gutter balls.  All of the balls will stay on the lane and head towards the pins.    

Rails are also something we can give people to help them have the time they need to learn, and to continue moving forward.  Parents do this when they start giving a child freedom. Here are the choices, here are the boundaries, here is what you need to know.  It's not every detail, it's not a guarantee, it's not making all of the choices for them, it's giving them a space to be able to learn without falling off the path completely. 

We also do this with medical information, if you know the information is going to be a shock and the person is going to need time to adjust and comprehend the information.  (And yes, a poor bedside manner is a possibility still in this example, and so is the insurance says you must decide in ten seconds.)  But again, let's look at it overall, the bigger picture. 

Not everyone can process information and see out of the darkness, and into logical next steps.  And not everyone has learned how to put their own rails up and move forward with their highest vibration.                          

​Funerals can be overwhelming emotionally, and they often happen pretty quickly before you even have a chance to process the loss.  If you have a family with many of the closest relatives to the deceased who are addicts and alcoholics, in recovery or not, you don't plan a service at the local pub.  The rails there are not going to help anyone.  

Now, say you are an alcoholic, and you are sober, and you are only one of many that would go to the wake, what rails have you put in place for your sobriety? What does your personal security team to stay sober look like?  

Maybe you are good, bars were never your thing anyway, and you have an actual support person you will attend with who is willing to just be there for you, and you can leave immediately if needed. Maybe they even take you right to a meeting after.  

Maybe you choose what is best for you is that you don't attend.  You find another way to be there for the family, and yourself, and to pay your respects.  

Maybe you don't have rails, no one trusts your sobriety, no one trusts your behavior, and they lie to you.  They don't tell you the correct when and where, or even tell you about the loss till after.  

​Those are all pretty simple examples to understand, but let's be honest, everyday life and rails aren't always that simple to see and to sort.  Part of maturing (which is different than just having more birthdays) is doing the work.  What makes you tick, what makes you triggered, what makes you heal? And now the same sentences, but substitute who.  Do it again with why and then with how. 

I do not watch blood splatter and gore movies.  My brain, soul, and vibration don't need that.  I am well aware from living my life that there is enough violence in the world, and to me, that is not entertainment; it is something that needs healing. 

I am not an alcoholic. But I never drink when I am angry, or sad, or feel like I need a drink.  I don't do it, because I know that fuels the wrong way out of raising up from a situation and out of it.  For me, I don't drink anymore anyway because of my health journey, and I am also always happy to be the safe person at an event that says Nope, I am good, thanks.  Especially for kids to see that no, not all grown-ups need to have grown-up drinks every time they are together.

And I never drink at fundraisers, but I always plan drinks when hosting one! Because even one drink loosens up those wallets, and people will spend more than they planned. 

However, I will on occasion drink a good margarita at a restaurant. 

What about that family member who is always a victim?  My inner security guard that keeps me from enabling, or being drug into yet another endless poor me conversation is I don't answer the phone when they call, and messages get left on read.  My rails are I will listen to the message, because there may be a rare reality issue, and I will read the messages, but I never immediately respond.  And if I feel triggered by it, especially true for me personally in all issues that involve lies, then I set a timer to make sure I wait for at least a period of time before responding.  Or I might say nope, that's a 24-hour calm-down.  And a good rail reminder is you can archive a message, and then you don't have to see it, but it's there for later. 

And here is a rail almost all women need, and some men, and it took me decades to learn.  I don't stop my life, my day, my goals, and put them all on hold to help you find all of the answers.  Instead, I offer a door for when you are ready.  Here is an example: someone you know is in a domestic violence relationship, she is in the car with the kids, she is finally leaving, and she wants to know where the nearest shelter is located.  That's a stop, get the directions, the address, and help immediately.  

Different than, I know she's in a violent relationship, but he's sorry this time, and it will be different.  That might look like here is what the cycle of violence is, and you have been here before, and next time he might kill you.  A conversation that leaves a door for her to use if and when she is ready.  Or she is kinda ready, kinda gonna think about a plan, maybe - here's a good resource, the domestic violence link, and a reminder about how search history can be tracked, and a library has computers you can use, etc.  (Here is that link in case you need it, https://www.thehotline.org/ and it will open in a new window.) 

It doesn't do me any good to call all of the shelters to see how full they are, what legal support they offer today, what outside counseling, or inside counseling, is offered, how they protect kids in school, or with online learning, how their clothing pantry and food pantry work, etc.  That's just wasting their time and energy and mine, my rails are, this sucks, here are a couple of doors, including I will help get you to a shelter when you are ready, or change the locks when he is in jail.  And it might be a good reminder for me to remember, she may never leave, or never leave alive, and it's not me that kept her there, or abused her. 
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Where do you already do rails well? When do you need to do a better job with your rails?  And are you using your security team, your boundaries, your rails to make sure you are always putting your oxygen mask on first, so that you can best serve yourself and others?  ​

Starting over looks like a lot of things - and in this case, it's the website and the work.

The time has come, across the planet to create change, not by hanging on to the "we always did it this way" and not the "we salvaged this, let's build it back to what it was" - instead it's time to look forward with an eye to if we started from scratch, from what we really, really, really want, what would that look like.

We have reached a point in the States, where the Trump administration has destroyed access and resources to health, wellness, mental health, education, libraries, science, special education, head start, environmental agencies and programs, and so much more. To the point that resources are gone, or strained, or in such disarray that people can't get help.

That has left many of us with tied hands, with nowhere to send folks for the help they need or in a time frame for what they need. That means, well, now what? Do we stop helping? Do we exhaust ourselves trying? Do we add our voice to best of luck, but that's no longer available?

Or do we align with the astrology of this time, and take the brave step of erase it all and rebuild it, with the skills that we know work, and teaching people those skills so they can then build in their lives the new ways. It's kind of like knowing how to make chocolate chip cookies, and deciding do you mix it all at once, or first the wet then the dry and then combine, what can you substitute for an egg, how can you cook them if you are camping, or only have a toaster over, or waffle iron, etc.

Once you give a person all of those answers, they can look around, and say Hey, we couple make cookies with what we have available.

Life is like that, too, once we learn the basics.

Is it a little scary to erase everything here and start again after years? Yep, it is!

But it's also setting the example of walking the talk, and for living and thriving in the time we are living in, as some of us are holding the energy and creating the new templates.

So here we are, step one -- erased.
Step two - announce.
Step three, today is the day to plant seeds, because it's the new moon, and this is the new moon in Taurus, and we know what we plant here, sticks, it holds, it grows, and it flourishes. It's also the faith that the right people will find the content they need (and there will be a LOT more of that coming), and that is enough. It's not about selling your soul to social media content and billionaires that are exploiting your content and your brain with algorithms, but instead, planting, watering, weeding, and growing.

​If that resonates with you, bookmark the site and come back often. And use the link below to sign up for emails, which will remind you to come back and alert you to what is new here.

much love to you and yours, 
T